Victory Over Fear

According to Merriam Webster, “fear is an unpleasant often strong emotion caused by anticipation or awareness of danger.” It’s a feeling of anxiety concerning the outcome of something! Contrary to popular belief everyone operates in fear one way or another. I am here to remind you that it is okay to be afraid, just don’t let it stop there……

Sometimes the one thing that is holding you back from your dreams and aspirations is YOURSELF! Recently, I was having a conversation and something struck me. “You hold yourself back by things you do and say.” My first reaction was to take offense to that statement…because how? NOT ME!! I know what I want out of life and I believe I am doing everything I need to do to get to that point. 

Before I could reach the point of defense, she further explained and elaborated that my thoughts create limitations instead of possibilities. I was having these thoughts because I was scared. I came to the realization that fear was, in fact, the main thing holding me back. If I was nervous about a situation or not sure of it, I would naturally shy away from it; from relationships to jobs or just flat out situations in life.  I often would doubt myself because I personally felt like I needed to accomplish more but in reality, I’ve already accomplished a lot in many aspects of my life; I needed to start giving myself the credit I deserve.

Most of the things I aspire to be and do (to a certain extent) put fear in my heart.  My thoughts constantly run crazy: “what if it doesn’t work out,” what if I don’t get the job”, “what if they don’t think I am good enough.” ” I don’t know how to do that.” Instead, I started to change my mindset to “when I get the job,” “if they don’t like this idea, someone else will,” “I am more than enough,” “I can learn to do this.”

That whole time I was unknowingly doubting myself and putting those negative thoughts out in the universe, and if I am not confident in myself how could someone else be?

I also had to understand no journey would be easy, people will tell me no, I will get rejected but it’s how I react and bounce back from it that matters the most. Instead of being fearful of rejection, mistakes, and challenges, I am practicing embracing and learning from everything apart of the journey. Most importantly I can’t let these things bring unsureness to my mind. Dreams and fears cant coexist.

I had to grasp the fact that everything worth doing will be challenging to some sort but once we overcome those fears we will open ourselves up to a new level of possibilities. Confidence is key and we all have another level of greatness waiting on us! Will you start choosing victory over fear?

“We can never become what we are destined to be if we operate in FEAR”

Your Virtual Bestie,